Showing posts with label America. Show all posts
Showing posts with label America. Show all posts

Friday, October 17, 2014

Baseball and Abayas

Bob, Kyle, Brad, Matt, Dawn (with little Mikus on deck), Aaron
celebrate the home team's ALCS victory 3am in Doha
photo credit: Matt Mikus (read Matt's travel blog: postcards and playlists)
 
Thousands of miles away and across the road too, the rest of my world celebrated the Kansas City Royals baseball ALCS victory and qualification for World Series competition.
 
Go Royals
 
I slid into abaya and hijab to attend Arabic classes at someplace new.
 
Maryam Center "Markazy Maryam" offers courses in Arabic, Quran and Islam
to Muslim women
 
The villa was surrounded by a high wall and tucked into a quiet community near a mosque. In front of the wall, a man guarded the sandy street. Behind the modesty-protecting barrier, shrouded women slipped through a paper covered door.
 
sorry, guys
 
Inside, black garbed women circled a stairwell. Windows covered in stained glass muted the hot sun. Like everywhere interior Doha, the air conditioning was set to "arctic" and the chill raised goose bumps on my blanketed skin. Three ladies worked at computers as dark eyed women rustled in and out of quiet rooms. In a windowless office, a lone woman sat at a mahogany desk, her title etched in Arabic on a wooden nameplate.
 
A brief consultation and the mudiera left the room. When she returned, she said: "Our classes are for women who are already Muslim. But you are so," here she supplied an Arabic word that she explained meant you-seem-Muslim, but might also refer to the preacher kid in me, ie, perhaps-your-dad-was-a-pastor-and-your-mom-a-church-pianist.
 
She handed me a registration packet. "I told him I wanted to give you a chance."
 
"Him" (no, not God): the unseen man who maintains unilateral authority
no matter how grand the boss-lady's desk.
 
For three years I've participated in the Arabic program at Fanar, the upside down ice cream cone minaret lighthouse-for-God at the center of downtown Doha. After a three month summer hiatus, one other woman and myself were ready to begin the final session of Fanar's five level program. That's when everything changed: new leadership, teachers fired, upper level courses moved from mornings to evenings. And new rules: we needed three more students before our class would be scheduled.
 
My classmate, a busy young Muslim mother and French expat, chose to go on to other things. I determined to follow our previous instructor to her new teaching position at Markazy Maryam.
 
abaya and hijab required
 
Here's what it's like to climb stairs carrying a purse and book bag as a newbie in abaya and hijab: sheer fabric clings to jeans, tangles at knees like a bed sheet to pajamas and (especially if it's front snapping) the robe flaps open. You instinctively release the handful of material gripped to prevent abaya from dragging as the skirt extends beyond shoes. Muted hallway sounds increase as you flail at the fly-a-way robe. Meanwhile, hijab slides off ears, slips over face. Disoriented and off balance, you, too, might shuffle over the abaya's hem, drop purse, trip over bag, turn the wrong direction and, blinded by a scarf, face plant.
 
Other activities, like the aerobic event that is the Arab greeting, maneuvering into a student desk or using the bathroom will be left to your imagination.
 
My teacher did not immediately know me with my sun-bleached hair and western attire hidden. Upon recognition she wrapped me in her arms and joyfully praised God.
 
"No, I'm not Muslim," I whispered in her ear as that's where my mouth was at the time. "I'm here for your class."
 
She squeezed me tighter. She kissed my cheeks and introduced me.
 
 
I settled into a front row seat and, along with six other ladies in black, learned about 3, 4 and 5 letter past tense root verbs using examples from the Quran.
 
foretelling baseball future?
Christmas Day Dhow ride, 2012
Go, Royals!

Friday, September 5, 2014

Pondering the Positives

 
In Missouri, USA, summer thunder rolls in like a drum crescendo with wind that twists trees and whips grass, flowers, earth into a festival of scents. Then it rumbles away leaving a glorious, cloudless blue sky framed by lush multihued green and clean, crisp, 70Fs (20Cs), Fall-sweet air. Perfect for jogging, mowing, barbecuing, jumping into raked mountains of crunchy leaves, hay rides, apple picking, evenings roasting marshmallows over a patio fire pit.
 
I watch the light show from my kitchen window wrapped in a cozy blanket, plane ticket in my hand, a 25-hour (minimum) journey in my future.
 
(Excepting the way-cute hubby) these are the toughest moments for reflecting upon the positives of another long trip over land and sea. I begged help from my support network of seasoned, experienced, expat travelers.

"What's your favorite thing about Doha?" I asked.

This is what they said (edited for list-making):

  • sand dune bashing

  • Inland Sea camping

  • the souq

  • unexpected friendships

  • worldly conversations

  • exploring new interests

  • mangroves

  • Doha is a great travel hub

  • you can't take "weekend/long weekend" trips to random places in the world from the States like you can here

  • an eclectic group of friends from all over the world

  • free world class level sporting events

  • the beach on a regular basis

  • variety of foods

  • friends from afar: England, Scotland, Australia, South Africa, Lebanon, Spain, and Germany to name a few

  • winter in Doha, bringing cooler temps and the chance to be outside

  • travel opportunities

  • understanding what really is the "Middle East" and having a new found respect for this part of the world - we are so accustomed to what we see on TV in the US that reality is quite a bit different than the news' sometimes "skewed" vision of the Middle East

BMD Ladies and friends gather for "high tea"
to celebrate Mary Anne's birthday
February 2014, Doha

Thank you, BMD Ladies Abroad, Dawn, Bridget, Samantha, Mary Anne!

Saturday, June 28, 2014

My Life in America: Looking at People

 
"Traffic is really backed up this morning adding 5 minutes to your drive."
-Radio station KFKF on morning rush hour traffic in Kansas City, Missouri, USA
 
The Walmart cashier smiled. "What's your favorite thing about being home?" he said.
 
I considered: the open road - where four cars at a stop light is a traffic jam and a five minute delay is an inconvenience…that I can trek to Walmart and home again in under 15 minutes…blue skies…clouds…rain…green…cars that merge, drivers who don't block intersections…worms in black earth under a mountain of wild daylilies…jogging in the street wearing shorts…different nationalities, races, religions, ideological outlooks living, working, existing side by side in (relative) harmony…
 
these beautiful people:
 
 
and that - in my little corner of the world, at least- we look at each other.
 
Gape, gaze, goggle, peep, scrutinize, wonder, glance. We consider one another by appearance, body type and posture. We evaluate strangers based on dress and assess people using external information: he's a businessman in a suit, she's a mom in sweats, there's a sullen teenager hunkered over her phone and that harried homemaker wearing dirty shorts and scrubby tank ran out of mulch while working in the garden.
 
We regard, weigh, contemplate, examine and review. Is his hair color natural? Cute dress. Bratty kid. Muffin top. Sweet couple.
 
daylilies
 
Tall, short, fat, thin, rich, poor? There's sinful judgment in shallow appraisal: he's a hard worker, slacker, health freak. She's alcoholic, overeater, underachiever, mogul, homeless, confident, shy, chic, uncouth. Lookit those Baptists with crosses and Catholics dangling rearview mirror prayer beads. There are Muslims in hijab, Amish in long skirt with tennis shoes and whatever religion wears those little white caps over long, gray beards…
 
Some cultures go to great lengths to discourage looking as it can harvest misconceptions, inaccuracies and wrong impressions.
 
not looking in Doha
 
When nourished with a smile and a greeting, however, looking breeds connection.
 
What are you planting? Where do you work? What kind of phone do you have? Where do you get your hair done? Do you eat here often? How old are your kids? Ever been to a Royals game?
 
In Missouri we smile and say "hello" to joggers on the street. We wave at neighbors out of windows accessible to sidewalks dotted with people. We chat with strangers at Quik Trip, exchange business cards with folks we don't know, say "Pretty Day, don'cha think?" and "How about those Chiefs!" and "Do you know where the laundry soap is?"
 
university prof talks to strangers
 
Sure, life's not perfect, not even in America's heartland. There's crime. Inflation, unemployment, divorce, haves and have nots, Obamacare. But there's comfort in a community that connects with a glance and a grin.
 
I see you
 
The cashier smiled. "Nice to meet you, have a nice day," he said.
 
I shifted the bag of mulch over my scrubby tank and dirty shorts, stepped into the blue sky day and admired the clouds.
 
purty

Friday, May 16, 2014

Why I'm Not Posting a Blog Today: New York Edition

photo credit: Lois Kathryn (Kay) Hedrick, Realtor

Introducing Lois Kathryn (Katie) Kennaley, Bachelor/Masters of Science, Dietetics:
 

beautiful Lois Kathryn (Katie) Kennaley
prepares to be hooded
 
Katie graduates from D'Youville College in Buffalo, New York this week after which time she'll study for, take and pass her registration exam and begin job hunting in earnest. We're happy to be present for the big event and much too busy visiting Niagara Falls, shopping at Target, jogging in the puddly-muddly street wearing shorts, eating, drinking and generally being merry to post a blog!
 
Katie's proud family (us) travelled from all over the world to beautifully green, heavily treed, dogwood and cherry blossom (or something like it) sweet, rainy, refreshingly cold Buffalo, New York to welcome Katie to her next life.
 
Chris attends a graduation event via photo
 
To read Katie's resume and learn more about her professional experience in Dietetics, health and nutrition, and maybe consider her for a job in your fine establishment, click here: http://katie.kennaley.com. We're so very proud of Katie and her many accomplishments!
 

Friday, January 3, 2014

Why I'm Not Posting a Blog Today, Redux

I'm proud to say I've posted a blog every week for more than a year.  In the home stretch now before I return to Doha with a surprise in tote, I don't want to ruin this blogging streak over a little homegrown under-the-weather.  So - to tide you over and hold my place, here are some pictures of a recent holiday visit to Kansas City, Missouri, USA's wonderful Aquarium.
 
A marvelous, magical journey
 
 
With a little mermaid
 
 
Sitting pretty in her underwater bubble
 
 
Small fingers, gentle touches
 
 
 
Special moments
 
 
Time very soon to return to the desert!
 
 
Thanks for reading!

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Ya Filus! Rich American

shopping at The Pearl
 
She sits at a desk deep inside the secured ladies' area.  She wears abaya and sheyla and when she leaves the protected space she covers her face and hands too.  Her job is to answer the phone, maintain lists, help visitors.  She's from France.
 
She greets me this way:  "Ya, filus!"
 
Hello, Money.
 
"She's crazy," say the other ladies.  "Ignore her."
 
But I'm puzzled.  The greeting is negative, assumptive and mean; a slur:  fatty, ugly, rich.
 
"Why do you say this?" I ask.  "It's very rude."
 
"But it is true, yes?"  eet eez troo.  "You are American.  You are rich."
 
I shake my head.  Not that it's not a bad thing like stealing bread from babies but No I'm Not Rich.  I tell her about layoffs, old cars, raising three children in a small house.  Joint bank accounts, family budgets.  Hard earned achievement realized through years of education, planning, sacrifice.
 
I don't own excessive "stuff."  I shop at Walmart, not Hermes.  I cook, clean and do laundry.  I work.  I'm in Doha because my husband is good at what he does - and win or lose, we operate as a team.
 
She purses her lips, waves the back of one hand in my direction.
 
She's not impressed by my college degree, professional experience, stories sold to Highlights for Children.  She's not interested in my job in Doha and efforts to volunteer in local schools.  She's more curious about why I don't have a maid to wash my husband's socks than understanding how everyday American women balance work and family obligations without the aid of a full time, live in nanny.
 
…it is the man's duty to take full responsibility for the care and maintenance of his wife and family. He must provide a safe home, food, clothing and all material needs. Indeed, Muslim men are responsible for all financial matters.  A Muslim woman may contribute financially if she wishes, but she is under no obligation to do so…
(Link)
 
In America, "rich" makes more money than she spends.  She drives a truck, Toyota, BMW, lives in a tract house or mansion.  She's every nationality, color, shape, size, orientation, gender, religion.  She has savings to care for herself and her family and maintain her lifestyle without working, if necessary.  And according to sociologist Leonard Beeghley, she has a net worth of at least $1 million.
 
Hermes at The Pearl
 
Qataris enjoy one of the highest living standards in the world.
(Link)
 
In Qatar, the country's oil and gas revenues are shared with minority population Qatari citizens.  Here, "rich" drives a Lamborghini, Rolls or SUV, lives in a sprawling family compound/beautifully appointed villa/The Pearl.  "Rich" summers in a cool climate, sends his children to university abroad, spends holidays in Las Vegas.  Most households engage a nanny and maid but "rich" boasts one helper per child and two, three or more maids.  "Rich" is employed, but doesn't necessarily work; is conservative and religious - and generally unavailable to outsiders.
 
"Rich" is relative, political, desirable, shameful - and achievable in some places more than others.
 
She raises her chin, lifts an eyebrow.  "I want to go to America."
 
Oh.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Arabic in America

Kimber studies culture and language
Doha, 2012
 
"…The meaning of al-Salam Alaikum is informing the person who is greeted that he is in peace and safety from all kinds of mischief from the side of the greeting person…"
 
In My America, the cashier at Target wears a head scarf.  "Salaam Alaykum," I say.
 
She peeks at me out of the corner of one eye, whispers, "Wo alaykum..."
 
"…Imam Ibn Majah…'If they greet you saying al-Salam Alaikum (peace be upon you) reply them with Wa Alaikum (and upon you too)'…"
 
"Do you know Arabic?"  I ask, in English.
 
She's from Togo where French is the national language and English is widely spoken.

She smiles.  "I'm learning."
 
"That's great!" I reply, in Arabic.  "I'm learning too.  Please, will you speak with me?"
 
She laughs and says in English, "No, stop.  I don't know this."
 
"But don't you read the Koran?  I'm learning the Arabic of the Koran."
 
"My husband does.  He's studying Engineering here.  He tries to get me to read the Koran."  She shakes her head.  "I want to learn before we return to Saudi Arabia."
 
"If you speak Arabic with me we can both practice."
 
Katie
Doha, 2012
 
The next time I see her, she's wearing a dark blue snow cap over a black headband.  "My husband was asleep when I left this morning."  She shrugs, adjusts the cap.  "It's fine as long as my hair is covered."
 
She speaks to me only in English.
 
The next - and last  - time I see her, she's wearing a beautiful black and white sheyla.  She goes to break as I approach her line; she does not return my smile.
 
"…the Prophet said: "Do not greet the Jews and the Christians before they greet you and when you meet any one of them on the roads force him to go to the narrowest part of it…"
 
 
 
In Doha, I'm often asked why I want to learn Arabic.  "Because I live here!" I reply.  Perhaps it's also true that since I studied Arabic in my youth I'm drawn to the inflections, intonations, highs, lows - the language's uniquely musical qualities.  I like the way one word or phrase can mean many different things.  That God is part of everyday speech, whether greeting a person, introducing an idea or baking a cake.  How there are so many responses to "I hope you're well" it can take 20 minutes to get past "hello."
 
Sometimes I wonder if Arabic is a language or a religion.
 
"…'al-Salam' (peace, safety) is a Name, Attribute, and Act of Allah, so pronouncing this word is a supplication of Allah. Therefore, this great word should be protected from those who do not believe in it but they are enemies of Al-salam (a name of Allah). Thus when the Prophet wrote letters to the kings of Kuffars he wrote in the beginning 'Peace be upon those who follow the Guidance'; he did not write Kuffars the expression 'Salaam alaikum.'"
 
In America, as in Doha, I study alone at my kitchen table or with other non-native speakers.  I read children's books, watch children's videos, listen to Middle Eastern music and write emails, stories and poems.
 
It's not enough.
 
"…The ideal way to learn a foreign language is by conversing with native speakers…"
 
Yesterday I mail a package at the post office.  A man passes me carrying a baby.  Behind him steps a woman in abaya and sheyla.  She glances at me.
 
"Salaam alaykum," I say.
 
She smiles, surprise lighting her face.  "Wo alaykum salaam."
 
"A smile is a gift and counts as a form of charity."
- Qatari teacher at Fanar, the Islamic Cultural Center, Doha, Qatar
 
 
How to Speak Arabic
Lesson 1?

Friday, November 29, 2013

My Life In America- Holiday Edition

Crossing a bridge into downtown Kansas City
 
The car in front of me drives through the intersection and stops.  The lane ahead is full.
 
I pause at the crossroad, brake at the white line.  The car in the lane beside me stops too.
 
We wait 1-2-3 beats before our light turns red.
 
We don't honk, gesture, slap the steering wheel.  We don't accelerate into the space between two vehicles, block the intersection or flash our headlights.  We don't hop the curb.  We don't drive on the sidewalk or median.  We don't get out of our cars and wave our arms at the injustice of this forced lesson in patience.
 
We wait.
 
Lights change on the right, left, in front.  Cars, trucks, vans, SUVs take turns moving through the intersection.  Merging happens: first one, then the next, then another, vehicles unite in moving traffic, mixing seamlessly like the teeth in a zipper.
 
A song plays on the radio, something about love, peace, God.  There are plenty of other programs to choose from: rap, metal, opera, talk shows, gossip, news, politics, entertainment - but I like this music.  The car's heater hums.  The clear blue winter sky is framed by ice defrosting on my windshield.  The temperature gauge reads 15F (-9.44C).  My hands are toasty in heavy cotton gloves, but the tip of my nose is cold.
 
My light turns green.  The lane ahead of me is empty.  I move my foot to the gas pedal.  The car beside me advances; I accelerate too.
 
Family night in America
 
It seems that life in America is easy as long as you follow the rules:  stop at the red light, don't block the intersection, wait your turn, pay your bills, don't steal, respect others' rights, keep your hands to yourself.
 
Here, public restrooms (almost) always have toilet paper.  (Sometimes there are second and third rolls and extra under the sink too.)
 
In My America, there are winter trees, crispy leaves, flowers, yards and neighborhoods without walls.
 
 
There are sidewalks where people walk, jog.  Strangers who smile, say, "hi!" and "I hear we might get snow" and "did you know you dropped something?"
 
Medicines are available for purchase in the local grocery.  Cashiers, salesmen and women and service people everywhere smile, say, "How can I help you?"  And mean it.
 
 
In My America there are people of every color, shape, size, religion, culture, disposition.  There are agreers and disagreers, saints and sinners, lovers and haters.  Bars in airports and movie theaters, bibles in motels and gas stations.  Cathedrals, mosques, synagogues, non-denominational meeting halls.  Men and women, men and men, women and women.  Martha Stewart, Howard Stern, X Factor, XXX, Disney Channel.  CNN, ABC, Fox News; rich, poor, haves, have nots, hard workers, hardly working-ers, Republicans and Democrats.
 
My America is a mish mash of people, ideologies, lifestyles, attitudes.  It snows in My America.  People get the flu, bump heads, disagree and sometimes, even, run red lights.
 
It's not perfect.  But - it's home.
 
 
Happy Holidays, America.  I've missed you.
 

Friday, April 5, 2013

My Life in America - the Experience

In America…
 
I don't carry toilet paper in my purse.
 
In Doha: I never leave home without it.
 
Most public facilities do not feature that little spray thing - and paper always goes in the bowl, not the trash can.
 
sticker seen on hotel bathroom wall in Greece
are Americans the only country to flush the paper?
 
I don't think too much about covering bare skin - unless I'm cold or naked.  I wear shorts, sweats, skirts, pants, cropped-, long- and no-sleeves, tank tops, jackets, tee shirts.  I dress according to the occasion and what's-in-my-closet.
 
Modesty is just one reason people cover up in Doha; weather is another.
 
I do "look" at people - to discover, appreciate,  wonder.   And I judge: facial expressions, gestures, tics…do I know her? Is he friendly? Are they a threat? Where'd she get that belt?
 
Not "looking" in Doha
 
I talk to strangers of all ages and genders in America.  I ask for directions, offer a compliment, request help…of people I don't know at all.  I have nodding acquaintances too:  men and women whose faces I recognize because they shop at the same time of day I do; gardeners, joggers and dog-walkers outside at the same time as me.
 
In my American neighborhood, Kyuong and I chat as we water and weed.  My yard merges with Sheri's.  A ten year old boy climbs the back fence to retrieve a lost ball.  A teenager waves at me as she giggles into a cell phone sitting cross-legged in her garden.
 
A Doha street: high walls separate and hide homes, people and activity.
 
Kids skateboard, ride bikes, climb trees and play dodge ball and hide-and-seek on my street in America.  They laugh, cry, shout, scream, run, jump, fall down, scrape knees and get dirty.
 
One doesn't often see kids publicly at play in Doha.
 
Teenage girls babysit for money in America.  A nanny sometimes lives-in, but often she's a regular babysitter/mother's helper who goes home at the end of her shift.  Unless she's a he and then he's a "manny." 
 
It seems everyone has a Nanny in Doha
Expats are allowed one Nanny per family
Locals often keep one Nanny per child.
Nannies sit with the kids
when the family eats out.
Nannies push strollers and hold small hands
staying a few steps behind Mom and Dad
during Friday Family outings.
 
In America, I pump my own gas.  I also cook, clean and take out the trash.  I scrub the toilet and bathtub, iron shirts, fill the dishwasher - and empty it too.  Sure, there are full time, live-in maids in America, but no one I know employs one.
 
The Doha maid accompanies her local woman
Everywhere.
She walks a few steps behind her mistress
Often wearing a pajama-like uniform.
She carries bags at the mall
and holds cell phones.
Kind of like a lady-in-waiting
who cooks and cleans and watches the kids too.
 
In America, I wait my turn.  Sometimes I'm after people who aren't even American.  Sometimes I'm last!  Jobs are won based on knowledge, skill and experience, not nationality or gender.  And hospital emergency rooms service patients according to need.
 
Doha hospitals feature a separate Emergency Room just for locals.
 
Also in America…unemployment is high.  Money is tight.  Gas is expensive.  There is death, divorce, cancer, Republicans, Democrats, Obamacare and the Twilight series.
 
Qatar is the richest country in the world
per capita.
She generously provides employment plus housing, transportation and more
to thousands of people
from everywhere
thanks to an abundance of oil and gas.
 
It's not perfect.  But for me…America is home.
 
trees in my front garden: purty

Friday, March 29, 2013

My Life in America - the People

Long flight, midnight arrival. Car rental: no waiting.
 
what it looks like to rent a car at midnight in Kansas City
 
Our agent is twenty-something young.  Black. Male. Beard. Business casual slacks, white polo.  Dark jacket, company logo. A smile.
 
Howyadoin?  His accent is distinctly American:  hard r's, "yeah," "uh-huh," t is d, s is z, words slid together, vowels buttered with y.
 
"Where you travelling from?" he says.
 
"kuh-TAR," says Bob, using the American pronunciation.
 
The agent smiles and repeats the country's name:  "قطر"
 
I respond in Arabic and he laughs. "Atakellam shwaya bass." I only speak a little.
 
He is Muslim. Attended Madrasa - where he came to understand the Arabic of the Koran. Now he's learning to read and write the language too.   He draws his name in fat, curling Arabic letters - and is proud when I can read it.
يوسف
 
Yusuf attended Northtown High School.  Graduated from a local college.  Lives with family, which includes two brothers.  He grew up in this city.  But originally, he says, "I'm from Somalia."
 
He tells us about his trip to Saudi Arabia, his Hajj.  About his flight home sitting beside an American Jew returning from her own pilgrimage to Jerusalem.  How they share experiences - and God - at 30,000 feet.  Male/female, white/black, Arab/Jew.
 
Two completely different people with one thing in common: both are American.
 
display from a bulletin board at The American School of Doha
 
She tells him about the Wailing Wall.  He shares why Muslims circle the Kaaba seven times.
 
No dissention, no argument.  "It was profound," he says.
 
Sure Americans don't always get along - any more than siblings like the same music or wear the same fashions.  We are, however, conditioned toward acceptance in a thousand different ways: affirmative action, laws against discrimination, kids who give Valentines to everyone in class, the National Geographic channel.

We're as different as apples and trees - connected by tangled branches of concession.
 
American is Muslim, Jew, Catholic, Lutheran, Buddhist.  Black, white, olive, brown. Married, single, partners.  Gay, straight, "other." Conservative, liberal, rich, poor, in-between.  Jeans and tee shirt, suit and tie, hijab and abaya.  Outspoken, reserved, prejudiced, accepting.  We are The People of Walmart, The Academy Awards, Tom Hanks (because everybody loves Tom Hanks) and…Westboro Baptist Church ('nuff said).
 
Cashiers, business owners, homemakers, truck drivers, rodeo riders, students, writers, architects, engineers.
 
Unique…even to one other.
 
In fact, you could say that the only thing that's the same about Americans is: we are all so different.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Qatar and the U.S.: Just Like Me!

In honor of this week's much-anticipated trip home, here are our Top Ten Ways Qatar and the United States are alike:
 
10.  Janet Jackson
Janet Jackson in an episode of Good Times, c 1970-80s
(from the web)
 
American TV child actor, Jackson Five baby sister, Super Bowl wardrobe malfunction star…married to a Qatari.
 
9.    Malls
 
Villagio, Lagoona, City Center, Landmark…just like the U.S., there are malls aplenty in Doha - with shops like H&M, Virgin Megastore, Apple, Nike, Zara, Payless Shoes, Starbucks, Coffee Beanery. 
 
Doha malls are shiny
 
8.    People from…elsewhere
 
American Indians arrived first.  Then came the boats.  The new people planted seeds, built stuff.  Today, descendents of immigrant outnumber American Indians - and many U.S. citizens have never met an American Indian.  In Qatar, building, planting expats outnumber locals 4 to 1.  Western culture is widespread.  And many of these from-elsewhere people have never met a Qatari.
 
7.    Same Sex PDA
 
 
6.    Flowers
 
Oh the planting and the watering!  Oh the sneezing and the coughing!  Sure there's a construction boom in Doha, but there's also a movement to change the country's overall color from sandy, rocky brown to blooming, growing green.  A year ago birdsong was piped into trees through speakers tucked between branches.  Today, Doha has birds.  Doha has flowers.  Doha has seeds and fluff and…allergens.  (Ah-choo!)
 
5.    Made in China (and India)
 
Doha's famous Souq Waqif is rebuilt to look old, so visitors can enjoy a "real" Middle Eastern outing.  Visit the handcraft area where you will see real (from India) Indians weaving traditional Middle Eastern baskets, sewing traditional Middle Eastern clothing, creating traditional Middle Eastern art. Visit the shops and barter Middle Eastern style (with Indians or from-elsewhere Arabs) for scarves, Pashminas, watches, nesting dolls and more…all of which is quite often: Made in China (and India).
 
Just like America!
 
4.    Covered ladies
 
This photo is from canstockphoto.com, but for the record, I personally know a soccer-playing, habit-wearing, under-30 years old, American nun.  She's fabulous!
 
Just like Qatar's traditional ladies!
 
3.    McDonalds, KFC, Chili's, Pizza Hut, Fridays, Applebee's
 
There's an intersection in Doha popularly known as "cholesterol corner." Here you will find an endless stretch of American restaurants featuring burgers, fries, nachos, peanut buster parfaits and bottomless-chips-and-salsa.
 
American style muffin-top (ie, wobbly, buttery, over-the-belt layers of belly fat): no charge.
 
2.    English
 
America does not have an official National Language (unlike Qatar where the official National Language is Arabic).  UNofficially - America's National Language is English.  UNofficially - so is Qatar's…as more citizens speak English than Arabic.
 
1.    Family Values
 
Special dining areas for groups that include women and children, Family Fridays, joined households, arranged- and inter-marriage, Salah, sons who skip business meetings to take Mom to the mall…these are just a few of the ways Middle Easterners honor Family while respecting their culture.
 
Kin takes the top spot in America too: a dad who works multiple (or far away?) jobs in a bad economy to care for his family, a mom who stays up late to decorate cupcakes for the second grade party.  Prayer.  Skype. Midnight phone calls. Travelling 24 hours for a few days together.
 
Different.  And the Same.
 
Our Number One Most Important